Personally I was hit as a child and it didn’t do me any good long term, the issue is it’s the fear of it that works more than the actual act imo, the issue is sometimes words arn’t heeded to so a smack on the bum or legs is the next step to make the point, I have never and would never hit my child in any way, I’d rather use psychological tools, like time outs and taking luxuries away but in the past kids didn’t have as much their lives now depend on like phones and consoles etc so that deterrent wasn’t around. The issue is I actually do believe in smacking IF it’s done right, in a calm and controlled manner, the issue is it’s usually not, it’s in a time of despair and anger and then discipline suddenly becomes a beating and that’s simply never ever ok obviously.
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Controversial topic... does the younger generation know about getting beaten as a kid for punishment🤣🤣🤣
Ive had this conversation with many people and its always a subject that has the potential to raise concerns but its normal for anyone above the age of 25ish or ethnic backgrounds.
Personally ... everyone i spoke to think that the reason the world and the new generation is so soft.. is simply the fact that parents dont hit their children anymore as discipline and its a general thought among mid 40s generation.
Its crazy because it used to be a common thing to smack your kid for misbehaving or even smacking the kid of your friend to teach them a lesson.
And this was like this for probably thousands of years for all we know 🤣🤯 But these days you could get locked up quickly for that.
Do you think getting hit as a kid did good for you or bad for you? ( physical abuse is different, we are talking about disciplining) and do you think less beatings are creating weak children or the opposite?
Its mad, this topic always comes up some way or another... either in gym or even walking down the road and seeing an old timer.
Comment down below and lets see what you think!😊
Timestamp: 01/02/23 @ 11:35 am
Personally ... everyone i spoke to think that the reason the world and the new generation is so soft.. is simply the fact that parents dont hit their children anymore as discipline and its a general thought among mid 40s generation.
Its crazy because it used to be a common thing to smack your kid for misbehaving or even smacking the kid of your friend to teach them a lesson.
And this was like this for probably thousands of years for all we know 🤣🤯 But these days you could get locked up quickly for that.
Do you think getting hit as a kid did good for you or bad for you? ( physical abuse is different, we are talking about disciplining) and do you think less beatings are creating weak children or the opposite?
Its mad, this topic always comes up some way or another... either in gym or even walking down the road and seeing an old timer.
Comment down below and lets see what you think!😊
Timestamp: 01/02/23 @ 11:35 am
lol does this topic really come up at the gym? like big hard men grunting in the mirror while complaining about how they can't beat up kids without getting in trouble? they sound like the weak ones to me! although tbh I'd bet they don't even have kids they just saw a meme lol (I don't have kids either mind so what would I know)
😂😂🤣 can’t get this image out my head now thanks for lightning the mood. Honestly think it’s silly this is still in question. Violence breeds violence I was an angry teenager not by my nature but nurture sorted myself out a long time ago and am the person I always was deep down just saying not judging anyone
Why’s it always about generation? Kids still get beat you no it still does no good I’d argue the fact you think this is ok doesn’t make it ok and definitley not everyone who’s experienced it would agree with you mate no disrespect but your parents obviously smacked up you which was fine normal back then but I strongly believe kids deserve respect and a good example set scaring them into doing something is them fearing you not the same thing as respect
Ye of course would be a boring world without different opinions hope you have a good rest of your day
Terrible take IMO
Hitting your child only demonstrates that you have lost your own self control
Edit: - unless you deliver the blows in a calm and considered fashion but then you’re displaying some other iffy characteristics
Hitting your child only demonstrates that you have lost your own self control
Edit: - unless you deliver the blows in a calm and considered fashion but then you’re displaying some other iffy characteristics
Hello, I am in my mid 20's.
With where I live and everyone I went to school with, I have never received, seen, or know of a beating or "physical punishment" my entire life. When it came to discipline in our house, it was either being grounded, toys being taken away, time out, stay outstide in the garden. This was very effective for me as I lose something that occupies my time and gives me joy. For my sister it was a lot harder. Her behaviour seemed to remain the same of being a terror spoilt child and it wasn't stopping, my mum was threatening her with military school and that seemed to change her. My sister had a habit of making every punishment a treat. Sell her toys? Good, she likes the space. Send her to the garden for not eating food? Good, she will play in the garden. Every punishment didn't work. But when threatened to join a military school, that was something that couldn't lead to a fun alternative.
My mum got smacked on the backside if she fooled around, stole, or didn't do chores. I even asked my mum about this and she thinks that giving your child a smack is what you do to a child that is spoilt, never gets punished or never takes punishment seriously, and is bullying kids at school.
My dad on the other hand, his father can die underneath a jail cell. His step father is more of a father and man than that guy will ever be and I have never nor wanted to meet him. Only the oldest brother in my dads family was the only one who remained in contact. The rest of the family wanted nothing to do with him and reject him. My father hated him so much that he left the home at 16, denounced him as a father and didn't talk to or see him since.
Personally. If my dad or mum resorted to hitting me to correct my behaviour, then I wouldn't want to see them again and if I did i'd end up getting violent. But that's simply because I was a good kid in a sense? Like I said for my previous writing, taking something away from me was enough punishment enough and I really didn't know why. Only to find out in my adult hood that I have ADHD and mild autism, so taking away my computer was literally leaving me like a brainless zombie waiting for the days to end and I didn't want that to happen anymore so my behaviour corrected really easily after punishment.
I currently have the most loving best family in the world, they are everything to me, they come first, they were always there and believed in what I do and my life. There is no bad blood or trauma and I think that my parents parenting was the best way to do it for me.
In terms of being "soft". I don't really know what that means. If we are talking about never fighting back or letting people use you. Then i'm gonna be honest, I learnt more about bullies and how to handle them from prison movies like Mean Machine. First year in my school if someone tried to step up to me for what ever reason, i'd gladly start fighting. And then I won't get in any fights for the rest of my time in school. Its okay to lose a fight or what ever, its just about showing the bully and everyone else that you WILL fight back if fucked with, you ain't gonna be an easy target. My last fight was on the first year of high school at age 11, haven't been in a fight since.
Personally don't want kids, I think I would be too frustated and would result to quick methods to make them sleep, behave, eat food, anything. I'm even struggling to make sure my life is in order and everything is okay, adding a child for mandatory looking after for at least 18 years is not something I wanna sign up for.
I can't really give a one sided answer on if disciplining your kids is a yes or no solution. Imma just say its complicated and requires a lot of factors for each family as to why they do or don't do it and how it effected the child.
With where I live and everyone I went to school with, I have never received, seen, or know of a beating or "physical punishment" my entire life. When it came to discipline in our house, it was either being grounded, toys being taken away, time out, stay outstide in the garden. This was very effective for me as I lose something that occupies my time and gives me joy. For my sister it was a lot harder. Her behaviour seemed to remain the same of being a terror spoilt child and it wasn't stopping, my mum was threatening her with military school and that seemed to change her. My sister had a habit of making every punishment a treat. Sell her toys? Good, she likes the space. Send her to the garden for not eating food? Good, she will play in the garden. Every punishment didn't work. But when threatened to join a military school, that was something that couldn't lead to a fun alternative.
My mum got smacked on the backside if she fooled around, stole, or didn't do chores. I even asked my mum about this and she thinks that giving your child a smack is what you do to a child that is spoilt, never gets punished or never takes punishment seriously, and is bullying kids at school.
My dad on the other hand, his father can die underneath a jail cell. His step father is more of a father and man than that guy will ever be and I have never nor wanted to meet him. Only the oldest brother in my dads family was the only one who remained in contact. The rest of the family wanted nothing to do with him and reject him. My father hated him so much that he left the home at 16, denounced him as a father and didn't talk to or see him since.
Personally. If my dad or mum resorted to hitting me to correct my behaviour, then I wouldn't want to see them again and if I did i'd end up getting violent. But that's simply because I was a good kid in a sense? Like I said for my previous writing, taking something away from me was enough punishment enough and I really didn't know why. Only to find out in my adult hood that I have ADHD and mild autism, so taking away my computer was literally leaving me like a brainless zombie waiting for the days to end and I didn't want that to happen anymore so my behaviour corrected really easily after punishment.
I currently have the most loving best family in the world, they are everything to me, they come first, they were always there and believed in what I do and my life. There is no bad blood or trauma and I think that my parents parenting was the best way to do it for me.
In terms of being "soft". I don't really know what that means. If we are talking about never fighting back or letting people use you. Then i'm gonna be honest, I learnt more about bullies and how to handle them from prison movies like Mean Machine. First year in my school if someone tried to step up to me for what ever reason, i'd gladly start fighting. And then I won't get in any fights for the rest of my time in school. Its okay to lose a fight or what ever, its just about showing the bully and everyone else that you WILL fight back if fucked with, you ain't gonna be an easy target. My last fight was on the first year of high school at age 11, haven't been in a fight since.
Personally don't want kids, I think I would be too frustated and would result to quick methods to make them sleep, behave, eat food, anything. I'm even struggling to make sure my life is in order and everything is okay, adding a child for mandatory looking after for at least 18 years is not something I wanna sign up for.
I can't really give a one sided answer on if disciplining your kids is a yes or no solution. Imma just say its complicated and requires a lot of factors for each family as to why they do or don't do it and how it effected the child.
Ofcourse each individual is different and obviously parents will learn ways to discipline children through processes of trial and error, i have no negative opinions on parents that choose to discipline their children in the ways that suit them.
Everyone grows up different but with this topic its more generalised to the ages and how its seen as bad now more than before
Everyone grows up different but with this topic its more generalised to the ages and how its seen as bad now more than before
I don’t think it’s about ‘beatings’, I think it’s about boundaries. Parents are just not setting them. This doesn’t necessarily mean they grow up as feral chimps (although some do), but they grow up confused and always trying to see how much further they can push things.
Modern parents want to be their kids ‘mates’ and I don’t think that works. But before we solve that we have to understand why kids are starting school not even toilet trained and eating baked beans with their fingers.
In an ideal world no one of any age would ever lay a hand on another in anger or reproach. I guess we should try and live up to that ideal.
I never got a hiding from my mother that I didn’t deserve, but another relative was violent in a way that still troubles me if I think about it today🤷♂️
Modern parents want to be their kids ‘mates’ and I don’t think that works. But before we solve that we have to understand why kids are starting school not even toilet trained and eating baked beans with their fingers.
In an ideal world no one of any age would ever lay a hand on another in anger or reproach. I guess we should try and live up to that ideal.
I never got a hiding from my mother that I didn’t deserve, but another relative was violent in a way that still troubles me if I think about it today🤷♂️
Being your kids mates is hard, its something that comes naturally but also i feel like the natural order of respect must be adhered to.. i think children must ... out of respect have fear of their parents.
But not fear like in the way of afraid of the punishment... more in the way of fearing the disappointment you get from them
But not fear like in the way of afraid of the punishment... more in the way of fearing the disappointment you get from them
No, it's 100% unacceptable.
Using violence as a method of discipline gives children huge trauma, attachment and mental health issues, this has been well documented for years.
My mothers controlled beating of me gave me an insecure/avoidant attachment style meaning I struggle to build friendships as I don't have a secure connection to my mother.
Using violence to resolve problems with another human who is not threatening you is unacceptable always.
Don't beat you kids then ask why they turn out soft and afraid of everything, ask yourself why you want to hit people instead of talk to them.
Stop child abuse now.
Using violence as a method of discipline gives children huge trauma, attachment and mental health issues, this has been well documented for years.
My mothers controlled beating of me gave me an insecure/avoidant attachment style meaning I struggle to build friendships as I don't have a secure connection to my mother.
Using violence to resolve problems with another human who is not threatening you is unacceptable always.
Don't beat you kids then ask why they turn out soft and afraid of everything, ask yourself why you want to hit people instead of talk to them.
Stop child abuse now.
100% was a good thing.
The way its portrayed today - violence against children - of course it makes sense to oppose violence.
But what you are talking about is discipline, which is different to violence. Today it seems that there is no distinction and the concept of discipline has long been lost...
The way its portrayed today - violence against children - of course it makes sense to oppose violence.
But what you are talking about is discipline, which is different to violence. Today it seems that there is no distinction and the concept of discipline has long been lost...
I think we’re in a shaky middle ground where we may of gone to far the other way but I don’t think kids today are to soft there’s nothing wrong with wanting a better less aggressive humanity..maybe lack some boundaries but you can set those without hitting kids.. i think it’s good we’ve moved away from it.. if you hit a kid as punishment what are you really teaching them?
This lack of distinction between discipline and outright violence is the reason people fear for childrens safety. But people have also lost trust in the parenting abilities which makes everyone think its only violence.
Its hard to explain but you have to have lived it , in order to know what the distinction is.
Its hard to explain but you have to have lived it , in order to know what the distinction is.
I’ve lived it.. I definitley didn’t appreciate it but maybe some parents can’t draw that line which is why they banned it. You can teach kids respect, manners all those things without physical punishment it only taught you that it is ok
Any human hitting another human a quarter of their size, is objectively a bully.
I choose not to bully my kids and their behaviour is fine
I choose not to bully my kids and their behaviour is fine
I don't think it can be defined as good or bad.
I'm early 20's and got beatings as a kid - uncommon for my age. but mostly they instilled fear rather then lessons.
I never recieved a beating and was like "oh so this is what i did wrong, this is why its wrong and why i shouldn't do that again" instead it was a "oh hes fucking terrifying". Which works for so long, until you get sick of being scared. That fear becomes resentment or becomes the base for mental health issues.
Parent/child relationships are so dynamic and different across the world. I don't think their is a correct answer to this question, It's based in culture and environment.
What works for some kids might not work for all.
A fish will always lose a race on land.
I'm early 20's and got beatings as a kid - uncommon for my age. but mostly they instilled fear rather then lessons.
I never recieved a beating and was like "oh so this is what i did wrong, this is why its wrong and why i shouldn't do that again" instead it was a "oh hes fucking terrifying". Which works for so long, until you get sick of being scared. That fear becomes resentment or becomes the base for mental health issues.
Parent/child relationships are so dynamic and different across the world. I don't think their is a correct answer to this question, It's based in culture and environment.
What works for some kids might not work for all.
A fish will always lose a race on land.
All 6 of us were beaten even before we could speak. I was told I was a failure and I believed it, it did affect me in many many ways.. spank your kids if you must but never face slap a kid and always explain why you are doing it.
I don't have children, which is possibly a good thing, because there's been many an occasion when I've wanted to drop-kick other people's unruly brats across the room. That said, I think physically punishing children is a failure in parenting. I have a friend who never forgave his father for physically punishing him for 'stealing' a toy when he was a nipper. He was too young to understand the concept of theft, and the punishment was the result of a strict grandparent pressuring the parent to act severely. If I did have kids I like to think I'd be disciplined enough to explain their errors without having to resort to physical punishment. No child should have to live in fear of pain. Children learn their values from the adults around them, so a good example should always be top of any grown-up's list.
It's not a funny thing.
How are you going to teach your kid not to hit people when you do?
We know that negative reinforcement doesn't work as a training technique. It just encourages fear and eventually violence.
My mum learned this last time she tried to hit me and I caught her hand.
Also, individuals aren't best placed to decide whether what happened to them was for the best or not.
Let's stop this uncivilised shit.
How are you going to teach your kid not to hit people when you do?
We know that negative reinforcement doesn't work as a training technique. It just encourages fear and eventually violence.
My mum learned this last time she tried to hit me and I caught her hand.
Also, individuals aren't best placed to decide whether what happened to them was for the best or not.
Let's stop this uncivilised shit.
the last time, i was much bigger and stronger than my mum, she was losing the argument and insead of conceding, she struck me, i struck her back with the force of all the years of abuse, a slap, but a good strong one with meaning, she went gray, she was in shock, she drank her own kool aid that day, i just try to be calm and kind to her now even though its a struggle, its my mum, i feel like her shrink sometimes, telling her about the things in life she doesnt understand that stem from her own fears.
The easy part was the slipper hard part was the belt wrapped around the back of my legs & if the belt couldn't be found the hand came out
My Mon was clinically depressed back in the 80s and didn't receive much help at all she never would've did anything just called dad
Wasn't any discipline just slap room now Ur mom's not well
my auntie was scary lol
My Mon was clinically depressed back in the 80s and didn't receive much help at all she never would've did anything just called dad
Wasn't any discipline just slap room now Ur mom's not well
my auntie was scary lol
The problem is in this day and age you can't even tell a child off. Me & my missus just been through hell and back with social services because her 12 year old runs and tells her daddy that I'd told her off a few times when she'd really taken piss & according to social services shouting at kids is classed as abuse... what the actual fuck???
It’s called progress! Just like it used to be acceptable to hit kids it’s not anymore thanks god, it’s no longer ok to shout abusivley at them. You are allowed to tell them of pull the other one mate. My guess is you were out of line with the kids sorry!
Never been out of order with the kids. You don't know what an absolute cretin her ex husband is, he's always trying to cause shit. My Mrs would kick my arse if I was out of order
Different people probably have different ideas of out of order. But your Mrs is happy so I’m going to leave it alone. Bit of a sore subject for me maybe definitley a controversial thing for just weed to bring up. I don’t understand why it would be a conversation over weather beating kids is a good idea.. obviously not 😅
And her dad is laughing his balls off mate
Not out of line just by shouting would be different if you'd hit her then different a story . Keep it cool
Not out of line just by shouting would be different if you'd hit her then different a story . Keep it cool
Her dad needs putting down he used to beat the eldest 2 but treats the youngest like a golden child and barely acknowledges the older 2 now, not to mention all the mental abuse he put my missus through. He loves causing shit
Personally, I think hitting anything is not a form of discipline. It’s a ‘I don’t know how to discipline so I’ll be violent’ mindset to me. I would recommend looking up some behaviour studies for children that are/were smacked.
im autistc, i got beaten for thins i couldnt understand, that hurts, not only that my mum asked for parenting advice from some good christian hicks, she said her hand was hurting from all the smacking so they told her to use wooden spoons, my dad used to prostrate me and hit me with belts, it really messed with mt mind as a child as i couldnt show them or recive love from them, they acted concerned when they saw blood, i was being used as an emotional punchbag, worse was the psychological abuse and sense of worth
Any parent who has to resort to physical violence to discipline their children is already a failed parent. There are many people with children who have very limited intelligence and this is the main problem.
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Winner will be revealed on 31/01.
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We will then use a random number generator with a time stamp to pick a winner.
Winner will be revealed on 31/01.
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We will be posting the link to the livestream on here
We will be picking the winner 04/02 as we will be doing it via livestream to be provable fair.
We will be posting the link to the livestream on here
We are still working on it, had a 24hr delay with resgistration we will be testing today and the draw will be done tomorrow 06/02/2023.
Sorry for the delay guys but we want to do it right this time so we can do it again :)
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Once we get to 31/10, we will stop giving out numbers and put the total into a random number generator which will give us a random number and a winner.
We will then post a print with the date and timestamp of the number that has been chosen.
We done this on our last comp, all went smoothly :) Hope we are doing it right.
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